Surviving pregnancy when you have a toddler sound tough? Today is the first of our “meet the mummy bloggers” guest post from the lovely Chelsea.
Chelsea blogs over at http://florenceolive.blogspot.
co.uk/ and has a daughter Florence, age 17 months and is 34 weeks pregnant with her second. She writes about all aspects of being a mum from adventures with her family, the highs and lows of motherhood and everything in between.
Hi Chelsea, how are you finding your pregnancy? Is it any different to your first?
Being pregnant the second time around feels completely different. I’m unsure if this is because we are expecting a boy this time or because I can’t rest and put my feet up whilst hubby fusses over me and my swollen feet because I am too busy running around after a mischievous toddler! Being pregnant with Florence I suffered with awful morning sickness in the first trimester, barely keeping down water and I lost some weight early on. This pregnancy hasn’t been anywhere near as sickly however my body aches constantly and I feel as stiff as a board first thing in the morning! Again this might be because I don’t have time to rest like I did whilst pregnant with Florence.
How did you break the news to Florence?
Florence was only 10 months old when we discovered we were expecting baby number two so far too young to understand. Recently however she has been showing great interest in my growing bump so we introduced her to two new books – I am a big sister and there’s a house inside my mummy. We talk about her little brother and ask her where is the baby or where is your baby brother and she points to my belly or rubs my bump whilst aaahhh-ing and gives him kisses. It is the sweetest thing to watch, she does seem to understand that there is a baby in there!
Do you have any tips for getting a toddler ready for a new sibling?
I read somewhere early on not to tell your toddler the news too early. As adults we can be impatient whilst baby bakes for 9 months and young children have no concept of time and just how long it will take until the baby arrives. I would hold off until your bump is more noticeable and/or when they show an interest in your growing belly! We gave Florence a beautiful dolls cot for her first birthday and I am planning on buying a few more doll accessories for her to play with before her brother arrives. She already plays with her doll and likes to change Upsy Daisy’s nappy and uses the baby wipes on her too! I think this will help when the baby arrives, she will be able to pass me a nappy/wipes or help with dressing them. I want her to feel involved with as much as possible to help with all the changes having a sibling brings.
Is it hard being pregnant and looking after Florence?
I think the hardest part is when we have a bad night. Florence has recently cut her first molar which has resulted in a few sleepless nights in our house and this really throws me off the following day! In the early days of the pregnancy before Florence was walking it was pretty easy to manage. Now she runs everywhere and is constantly on the move which is tiring and much harder than I imagined! I started an early maternity leave to enable us to spend lots of time together and enjoy the one on one time before I have 2 babies to care for and I planned so many fun days out. These have been spread out with a day or two of rest thrown in so mama can recover! Lots of puzzles, reading, drawing and CBeebies!
Are you ready for the new arrival?
More or less yes but with all new baby’s are you ever fully ready?! I am definitely more relaxed this time around. With Florence we had all our furniture set up, hospital bags packed and ready to go by 30 weeks. This time around I haven’t yet packed my bag and I keep having bad thoughts about my waters suddenly breaking and having to rely on my husband to throw some stuff in a bag and drive to the hospital completely unprepared!
Thanks Chelsea and good luck!