Blogger and new mum India has written a series of posts all about her pregnancy and what you might expect. First up – the first trimester.
Photo by Fern Merrills
“For me the first trimester felt like a whirlwind of happiness, change and worry. I was absolutely over the moon to be pregnant, and simultaneously aware that this little life inside me was so fragile.
Friends I have spoken to before and since have all agreed, that the wait for the 12 week scan is a painful one, especially when all you have to prove you’re pregnant is a line on a stick – my midwife didn’t even re-test at my first appointment!
I was exceptionally lucky in my first trimester as I had very few negative symptoms. Yes I had the tiredness which can always be expected, but as this is my first baby I don’t have anyone else to run around after so did my fair share of flopping on the sofa after work. Plus being in early pregnancy in the winter is pretty easy as you can just get cosy with a cuppa and a candle, there isn’t so much expectation to be out and about and full of energy.
Of course, being pregnant over the festive season does have its difficulties, and with a hen do in the mix as well I became an absolute pro at avoiding alcohol in a whole range of ways, without anyone noticing. We felt that we wanted to keep the news a secret until after our scan, mainly as we have friends who have had miscarriages, ectopic and molar pregnancies, and we were very aware that we may not have happy news to share after our scan appointment. This might sound negative but I just couldn’t quite believe our luck.
As it turned out we did have happy news to share, and let our families know using the cards in our photo announcement which we later sent to friends and family once we had told our nearest and dearest in person. Watching our family open those cards with personal messages on the back was so much fun, I would highly recommend it as a way to announce the news!
Photo by Sally T Photography
I also count myself very fortunate that I didn’t have any sickness in the first trimester. I had nausea on the dot at 5pm every day for a few weeks, but in lots of ways I found this reassuring. Just as my super sensitive boobs and slightly bloated tummy made me feel more confident in my pregnancy, I found symptoms reassuring rather than inconvenient.
Then, at around 10 weeks, all of a sudden the haze of the first trimester lifted and I felt almost normal again. I immediately worried that this wasn’t a good sign, but in reality it seemed to just be my body getting used to being pregnant, which I was so grateful for as I gained more energy again.
The only real blip in an otherwise very smooth first trimester came in week 7 when I had a small bleed. I was absolutely petrified and lay very still for most of the day whilst waiting for a doctor’s appointment. We were referred to the gynaecology unit for a scan the following evening, and after what felt like an agonising wait we saw our little dot on the screen fluttering away. I had convinced myself all wouldn’t be ok to try and protect myself a little, so when we saw the heartbeat on the screen I was over the moon. The staff on the unit were amazing, and gave me advice to enjoy my pregnancy which really stuck with me, it’s so hard not to worry all the time but it really doesn’t affect the outcome either way so it’s much better to focus on enjoying it if at all possible.
Following on from the 12 week scan, after we shared our news with family and friends, everything seemed to accelerate, and before I knew what we happening we were waving goodbye to the first trimester and skipping excitedly into the second.
(Read more about India’s pregnancy on her blog, www.indiawoof.com. You can also read her pregnancy diary over on Rock My Family).”