This week we have the lovely Claire from The Frugal Family sharing her Birth Story.
I’m Claire, I live with my long suffering husband and 4 kids (all under 9!) and our dog… and some fish. We have made our forever home in Nottinghamshire, we really love it here with such great city and countryside attractions. I started The Frugal Family to share our experiences of trying to save money while also saving the world, in the hope that it would help other families with those shared needs.
Where was your birth?
Our miscarriage rate was higher than average, so despite having four healthy children, we’ve also had four miscarriages, one with twins. We wanted to be in a hospital full of staff and equipment to help if anything went wrong – that is never what I imagined I would want!
We have had excellent guidance and care from QMC Nottingham for all four deliveries.
Did you have a plan about the type of birth you wanted?
All of my successful pregnancies went very overdue, by up to 3 weeks.
The first time I even wrote a birth plan (not that anyone ever looked at it…) I had a vision of being in one of those pools, but the first labour was a bit long and got complicated so I couldn’t use the pool – and then I needed an epidural and later forceps so it just didn’t work out the peaceful experience you read about with whale music in the background!
I honestly think I was in shock for about a month afterwards.
What type of birth did you have?
After baby one, which was long and protracted – baby two arrived in just 45 mins! We made it to the hospital by the skin our teeth and by breaking some of the highway code. I had no idea what was happening as it was so different to the first time, I kept asking for an epidural and was told there wasn’t really time as the baby was coming NOW. It was shocking in a totally different way and we were allowed to go home within two hours of delivery.
For baby three I had the label of a likely ‘precipitous’ birth so had to lie to that I was in labour to be taken down to the labour suite before they sent hubs home for the night… but again once they broke my waters baby arrived 15 mins later. Baby four was a very similar story – waiting forever and then all of a sudden a baby arrives. Thanks to gas and air I even laughed through a lot of it x
Just feeling quite spaced out, it’s a very strange experience to birth a baby – luckily I was handed tea quite quickly on each occasion to help ground me…
Best thing you packed in your hospital bag (or used if you were at home)?
Paper knickers – they don’t really fit with my ethical values, but they are so helpful to just use and throw away when everything is so very icky. It’s very hard to manage all the practical side of things when you have other small children at home that are used to going to the loo with you! Paper knicker for the first 48 hours just meant I could be quicker.
Anything else you would like to share?
I encourage other mums to just go with the flow as much as possible, having very set ideas about what you want can add to stress levels when things may have to change. I would pick one or two key things that are really important to you and make sure your ‘person’ know them. I didn’t want to hold my baby until there had been a bit of a wipe over and despite several midwives disagreeing my hubs was so certain that’s what I wanted he was listened to (I was usually still a bit high and being stitched at the time). It also meant he got the first hold which I liked.
Thanks Claire! If you want to share your birth story, get in touch, firstname.lastname@example.org